This is Toothless. I first met him when we were both helping to run nine-worlds-geekfest in early August 2014. He ended up hanging with my crowd, and after the convention we spent some time exploring London; the following weekend we went to WorldCon together, firm pals.
We parted ways after that - he wanted to make a go of it as a young dragon in the big city. But yesterday, he showed up at my balcony door, dazed and confused from London life and looking for a place to stay and get his bearings. How could I say no?
My mum - after the initial shock of finding a dragon at her door - had some reservations. He could stay, but only if he lived in my room, and kept out of the communal areas.
Toothless appears to have other ideas. I found him in the living room again this morning, curled up with hot chocolate and a book. I wonder what tomorrow will bring…
today in ‘I have lost control of my life’…
power up the jaegers baby
I was just scrolling through my dash and I was like “oh a pacific rim quote - WAIT HOLY SHIT”
selfie self-care month day 16: selfie with your computer set-up
oops i fell off the selfie wagon!!! but today was a good day to hop back on because it was my work’s first day in our shiny new office and here is a crappy phone selfie of me with my shiny new computer IT’S WALL MOUNTED ON AN ADJUSTABLE ARM IT CAN SWIVEL IT IS SO FUTURE
These are all real tweets, made by people who honestly believe this.
What hurts most about reading these is the one person who claims “100% of child abuse is from men”. Hi, dumbass. I was mentally abused, humiliated in front of my peers and violated by a fucking WOMAN when I was eleven. She got away with all of it too.
You can’t begin to imagine how fucking furious it makes me when people will excuse the actions of female abusers like her just for the sake of stamping the entire male population as horrible people.
This hashtag was started by 4chan as a hoax: http://www.dailydot.com/lifestyle/4chan-end-fathers-day/. They also started the hashtags #FreeBleeding and #WhitesCantBeRaped a little while back. They make fake accounts and pose as feminist women to start these hashtags to make feminists look stupid. Especially, to make black women/black feminists look stupid and they get away with it because so many people are willing to buy into the stereotype of black women as “bitter” and “angry”:
That account @CisHate was definitely one of the spammer accounts and it has already been remade because Twitter removed it for being spam.
I need feminism because people will take any opportunity to discredit everything we are striving to change.
Of course 4chan did this.
i cried today because people’s warm and loving tweets all over social media reminded me how horrible my father is AND YET somehow i managed not to begrudge people who have good relationships with theirs??!!?!?!!?!?!
honestly if you’re a father and you respect and genuinely work to understand your children, my goodwill is yours forever. this is the only sentiment that makes sense to me. fuck this straw feminist hashtag.
I think we have some tips on that in our “questioning if ADHD” tag. Basically you want to explain your symptoms and how they are causing you problems in your life, and ask about a referral to get an assessment. Don’t just spit out a list of ADHD symptoms like we have listed here, actually talk about how you have trouble focusing on specific things (list the specific things) and get overwhelmed by particular types of tasks (list the types of tasks) and stuff like that. You can write it all down before you go, to make sure you don’t forget anything. Then you can read the list to your doctor or you can even give it to them if you aren’t comfortable talking about it. When I went to my ADHD doctor for the first time after my reassessment, I took along a list of my medication history, complete with dates, dosages, and why I stopped taking each one, because I wanted to make sure he knew precisely why I refuse to take Strattera and methylphenidate. He kept that list and it’s in my file at his office.
Followers, any other tips?
lists are good.
maybe write out key points twice, so you can pass one copy to the doctor and keep hold of the other for reference, because it can be hard to be assertive in the moment and notes are helpful. when I went to a doctor he took my list and then kind of ignored it and I was too tongue-tied to ask for it back; I lost my nerve and didn’t state my case very well. this is an extreme example of bad practice on the dr’s part; I think I just had very bad luck and want to hope this wouldn’t happen to others. but I do think giving yourself backup is useful - it can’t hurt, anyway.
do you have someone with whom you can go over what you plan to say, before the appointment? I think that can be especially useful for spotting places where you could give more detail or background. you know your own symptoms and the impact they have on your life better than anyone, but talking it out with someone can be a huge help in making connections and clarifying the huge complexity of your personal experience of living with ADHD, and turning it into something you can explain to a doctor.
this is a tough and scary thing to do - I know - but it’s doable. good luck. rooting for you.